Merits of Being Dutiful to One's Parents
16 hadiths
Then return to your parents and accompany them in a best way
‘Abdullāh ibn ‘Amr ibn al-‘Ās (may Allah be pleased with him) reported: A man came to the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "I pledge allegiance to you to immigrate and fight for Allah's cause seeking Allah's reward." He said: "Is either of your parents alive?" He replied: "Yes, both of them." The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) asked him: "Do you seek reward from Allah?" He replied: 'Yes.' The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Then return to your parents and accompany them in a best way" [Al-Bukhāri and Muslim]. This is the wording in Sahīh Muslim. In another narration: "A man came to the Prophet seeking his permission to fight in Allah's cause, so the Prophet asked him: 'Are your parents alive?' He said: 'Yes.' The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: 'Then strive in serving them.'"
May his nose be rubbed in dust, then may his nose be rubbed in dust, and may his nose be rubbed in dust." It was said: "O Messenger of Allah, who? He said: "The one whose parents, one of them or both, reach old age in his life yet he does not enter Paradise
Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "May his nose be rubbed in dust, then may his nose be rubbed in dust, and may his nose be rubbed in dust." It was said: "O Messenger of Allah, who? He said: "The one whose parents, one of them or both, reach old age in his life yet he does not enter Paradise."
O Messenger of Allah, who is the most entitled among people to my good companionship? He said: Your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father, and then those who are the closest to you
Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "O Messenger of Allah, who is the most entitled among people to my good companionship?" He said: "Your mother." The man said: "Who next?" He said: "Your mother." The man asked again: "Who next?" He replied: "Your mother." The man further said: "Who next?" He said: "Your father." In another narration, the man asked: "O Messenger of Allah, who is the most entitled among people to my good companionship?" He said: "Your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father, and then those who are the closest to you."
Go back to them and seek their permission. If they give you permission, you can engage in Jihad, otherwise, be dutiful to them
Abu Sa‘īd al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him) reported: A man emigrated from Yemen to the Messenger of Allah (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) who said (to the man): "Do you have anyone in Yemen?" He replied: "My parents." He asked: "Have they given you permission?" He replied: 'No!' So the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Go back to them and seek their permission. If they give you permission, you can engage in Jihad, otherwise, be dutiful to them."
The pleasure of Allah is in the pleasure of the parents, and the displeasure of Allah is in the displeasure of the parents
‘Abdullāh ibn ‘Amr (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The pleasure of Allah is in the pleasure of the parents, and the displeasure of Allah is in the displeasure of the parents."
لعن الله من ذبح لغير الله
عن أبي الطفيل، قال: سئل علي: أَخَصَّكُم رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم بشيء؟ فقال: ما خَصَّنا رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم بشيء لم يَعُمَّ به الناس كافة، إلا ما كان في قِرَاب سيفي هذا، قال: فأخرج صحيفة مكتوب فيها: «لعن الله من ذبح لغير الله، ولعن الله من سرق منار الأرض، ولعن الله من لعن والده، ولعن الله من آوى مُحْدِثًا».
إن أبي مات وترك مالًا، ولم يوص، فهل يكفر عنه أن أتصدق عنه؟
عن أبي هريرة أن رجلًا قال للنبي صلى الله عليه وسلم: إن أبي مات وترك مالًا، ولم يوص، فهل يكفر عنه أن أتصدق عنه؟ قال: «نعم».
أطع أباك
عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ قَاَل: كَانتْ تَحْتِي امْرَأةٌ، وَكُنْتُ أُحِبُّهَا، وَكَانَ عُمَرُ يَكْرَهُهَا، فََالَ لِيْ: طَلِّقْهَا، فَأَبيتُ، فَأَتَى عُمرُ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فَذَكَرَ ذَلِكَ لَهُ، فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «طَلِّقْهَا»، وَلَفْظُ النَّسَائِيِّ: «أَطِعْ أَبَاكَ».
الوالد أوسط أبواب الجنة
عَنْ أَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ أَنَّ رَجُلاً أَتَاهُ فَقَالَ: إِنَّ لِيَ امْرَأَةً، وَإِنَّ أُمِّي تَأْمُرُنِي بِطَلاَقِهَا، قَالَ أَبُو الدَّرْدَاءِ: سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ: «الوَالِدُ أَوْسَطُ أَبْوَابِ الجَنَّةِ»، فَإِنْ شِئْتَ فَأَضِعْ ذَلِكَ البَابَ أَوْ احْفَظْهُ.
مَن أدرك والديه أو أحدهما ثم دخل النار من بعد ذلك، فأبعده الله وأسحقه
عَنْ أُبَيِّ بْنِ مَالِكٍ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَنَّهُ قَالَ: «مَنْ أَدْرَكَ وَالِدَيْهِ، أَوْ أَحَدَهُمَا، ثُمَّ دَخَلَ النَّارَ مِنْ بَعْدِ ذَلِكَ، فَأَبْعَدَهُ اللهُ وَأَسْحَقَهُ».
Whenever reinforcements from the people of Yemen came to ‘Umar ibn al-Khattāb (may Allah be pleased with him), he would ask them: Is Uways ibn ‘Āmir amongst you?
Usayr ibn ‘Amr (another said Ibn Jābir) reported: Whenever reinforcements from the people of Yemen came to ‘Umar ibn al-Khattāb (may Allah be pleased with him) he would ask them: "Is Uways ibn ‘Āmir amongst you?" This continued till he met Uways (may Allah be pleased with him) and said to him: "Are you Uways ibn ‘Āmir?" He said: ‘Yes.’ ‘Umar asked: "Are you from the Qarn branch of the tribe of Murād?" He said: ‘Yes.’ He further asked: "Did you suffer from leprosy and then you were cured but for the spot of a dirham?" He said: ‘Yes.’ Then, he asked: "Is your mother still alive?" He said: ‘Yes.’ ‘Umar said: "I heard the Messenger of Allah (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) say: 'There would come to you Uways ibn ‘Āmir with reinforcements from the people of Yemen. He would be from Qarn, of Murād. He had been suffering from leprosy from which he was cured but for the spot of a dirham. He has a mother to whom he is dutiful. If he were to take an oath in the name of Allah, Allah would fulfill his oath. If it is possible for you, ask him to ask forgiveness for you.' So, ask forgiveness for me." He asked forgiveness for him. ‘Umar asked: "Where do you intend to go?" He said: "To Kufah." He said: "Shall I write a letter for you to its governor." Uways said: "It is dearer to me to live amongst the poor people." The following year, a person from among the elite (of Kufah) performed Hajj and met ‘Umar, who asked him about Uways. The man replied: "I left him in an old house and with little means of sustenance." Thereupon, ‘Umar said: "I heard the Messenger of Allah (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) say: 'There would come to you Uways ibn ‘Āmir with reinforcements from the people of Yemen. He would be from Qarn, of Murād. He had been suffering from leprosy from which he was cured but for the spot of a dirham. He has a mother to whom he is dutiful. If he were to take an oath in the name of Allah, Allah would fulfill his oath. If it is possible for you, ask him to ask forgiveness for you.'" So, the man went to Uways and asked him to ask forgiveness for him. Uways said to him: "You have just returned from a blessed journey; so, it is you who should ask forgiveness for me." Then, he asked: "Did you meet ‘Umar?" The man said: ‘Yes.’ Uways asked forgiveness for him. Hence, the people recognized the status of Uways, and so he quickly went away from that place. In another narration also reported by Usayr ibn Jābir: "A delegation from Kufah came to ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him). Among them was a man who used to mock Uways. ‘Umar asked: 'Is there anyone among you who is from Qarn?' This man stepped forward. Then, ‘Umar said: "The Messenger of Allah (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) said: 'A man will come to you from Yemen named Uways. He will be leaving in Yemen none but his mother. He was suffering from leucoderma and supplicated Allah, the Exalted, Who cured him from it except for a space the size of a dinar or dirham. Whoever of you meets him should ask him to ask forgiveness for you.'" Another narration reported by him reads: "‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said: 'I heard the Messenger of Allah (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) say: 'The best one among the Tābi‘is is a man called Uways. He has a mother and was suffering from leucoderma. So, ask him to ask forgiveness for you.'"
The finest form of dutifulness is maintaining relations with those whom one’s father loved
‘Abdullāh ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that a man from the Bedouins met him on his way to Makkah. ‘Abdullāh ibn ‘Umar greeted him, made him ride on a donkey that he was riding, and gave him a turban that was wrapped around his head. Ibn Dinār said: "We said to him: 'May Allah grant you righteousness! These people are Bedouins and they are pleased with much less.'" ‘Abdullāh ibn ‘Umar said: "This man’s father was a dear friend of ‘Umar ibn al-Khattāb (may Allah be pleased with him) and I heard the Messenger of Allah (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) say: 'The finest form of dutifulness is maintaining relations with those whom one’s father loved.'" In another narration by Ibn Dinār, he reported that when Ibn ‘Umar set out to Makkah, he kept a donkey with him that he would ride when he became tired of riding his camel, and had a turban that he would tie around his head. One day, while he was riding this donkey, a Bedouin passed by him. Ibn ‘Umar asked him: "Aren’t you so and so the son of so and so?" He said: 'Yes.' So he gave him his donkey and said: "Ride this," and he gave him his turban and said: "Tie this around your head." Some of his companions said to him: "May Allah forgive you! You gave this Bedouin a donkey that you would rest on, and a turban that you would tie your head with?" He said: "I heard the Messenger of Allah (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) say: "The finest form of dutifulness is maintaining relations with those whom one’s father loved after his death”, and his father was a friend of ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him).
No son can repay the kindness of his father unless he finds him a slave and buys him and emancipates him
Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "No son can repay the kindness of his father unless he finds him a slave and buys him and emancipates him."
While three persons were walking, rain began to fall and they had to enter a cave in a mountain. A (big) rock rolled over (and blocked the mouth of the cave)
Ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "While three persons were walking, rain began to fall and they had to enter a cave in a mountain. A (big) rock rolled over (and blocked the mouth of the cave). They said to one another: 'Invoke Allah with the best deed you have performed.' One of them said: 'O Allah, my parents were old, and I used to go out for grazing (my camels), and on my return, I would milk (the camels) and take the milk to my parents to drink. After that, I would give it to my children, family, and wife. One day, I got delayed, and as I returned home, I found my parents asleep, and I disliked to awaken them. The children were crying near my feet (out of hunger), and they continued like that till dawn. O Allah, if You know that I did this for Your sake, remove this rock a bit so that we may see the sky.' So the rock was moved a bit. The second man said: 'O Allah, You know that I loved a cousin of mine with the deepest love that a man might have for a woman, and she told me that I would not get my desire fulfilled unless I paid her one hundred dinars. I struggled until I could gather the required amount, and when I sat in between her legs, she said: 'Fear Allah, and do not deflower me except lawfully.' Thereupon, I got up and left her. O Allah, If You know that I did this for Your sake, remove this rock a bit.' So two thirds of the rock was moved. Then the third man said: 'O Allah, You know that I once hired a worker for one Faraq (a measure equal to 16 pounds) of maize, and when I wanted to pay him, he refused to take his wages; so I cultivated it and bought cows and a shepherd from its yield; and after a period of time, that man came and said: 'O slave of Allah, give me my right.' I said to him: ‘Go to those cows and the shepherd and take them, for they yours.’ He said: ‘Are you mocking me?’ I said to him: ‘I am not mocking you; but they belong to you.’ O Allah, If You know that I did this for Your sake, remove the rock.' So the rock was removed."
لِلْعَبْدِ المَمْلُوكِ المُصْلِحِ أجْرَان
عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : «للعبد المملوك المصلح أجران»، والذي نفس أبي هريرة بيده لولا الجهاد في سبيل الله والحج، وبِرُّ أمي، لأحببت أن أموت وأنا مملوك.
I said: O Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be dutiful? he said: "Your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father, then the next in nearness and so on
Bahz ibn Hakīm reported from his father from his grandfather that he said: I said: O Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be dutiful? he said: "Your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father, then the next in nearness and so on."